Rediscovering The Joy Of Play: Learning & Letting Go As An Adult
Lately in my coaching sessions there has been a theme around the need to play more, “lighten up”, bring more recreation, spontaneity & fun into my clients lives!
It got me thinking as well, about the cups in life that I like to associate with living life to the fullest.
Play is indeed one of these cups that needs to be filled for us to fully live an authentic life and connect to our core inner self. It has immense value for our mental wellbeing and zest for life!
As adults, we often find ourselves caught in the whirlwind of responsibilities, deadlines and routines, especially when you are the responsibility of little humans into the mix as well!
The carefree days of our childhood seem like a distant memory, and the idea of play can sometimes feel like a luxury reserved for the young that we couldn’t possible do nor have energy for anymore.
In this article, we'll explore the journey of learning to play, having more fun and the art of letting go as an adult.
Why Play Matters
Before diving into how to incorporate more play into your life, let's understand why it's so essential.
Stress Relief
Play offers an escape from the stressors of daily life. Engaging in playful activities triggers the release of endorphins, the body's natural feel-good chemicals - which can help reduce stress and anxiety.
Mindfulness and being present can be one of the hardest things for as a humans in these times, so play enables us to focus on the enjoyment of our activity and be fully present on moments.
Creativity Boost
Play encourages creativity. It allows you to explore new ideas, think outside the box, and find innovative solutions to problems. Play can lead to breakthroughs in both personal and professional life.
I often integrate Lego team activities into my strategy sessions to bring in these creativity mindset where we can really generate new ideas and think differently to normal.
Improved Relationships
Play fosters connection. When you play with others, you strengthen bonds and create shared experiences. It's a great way to build and maintain relationships with friends, family and even colleagues. Learning how to play with your partner again through shared hobbies is also a great way to strengthen your relationship and reconnect.
How to Relearn the Art of Play
Now that we understand the importance of play, let's explore how to reintroduce it into our adult lives.
Embrace Curiosity
Start by nurturing your curiosity. Explore hobbies and interests that have always intrigued you, but may have been pushed aside by the demands of adulthood. Whether it's painting, dancing or learning a musical instrument, curiosity fuels the desire to play.
For me recently, this has been padel. It was always something I was intrigued by but could never ‘make’ the time. One day, I decided to give it a go on a Saturday morning instead of my usual 7am gym grind and now it is my place of happiness, where I can be fully present in that moment and find some time for me to play and learn in a new environment whilst feeling part of a larger community and network.
Make Time For Play
As I just mentioned... I never made time for padel, until I just did!
Just as you schedule work meetings and appointments, allocate time for play. Block off time on your calendar for activities you enjoy, whether it's a boardgame night with friends or a solo adventure like hiking, breathwork or meditation.
Play Like A Kid
Don't be afraid to embrace childlike activities. Jump into puddles, build sandcastles, or play tag with your friends. The sense of nostalgia and freedom in these activities can be incredibly liberating. When I start my Lego Serious Play Work shops, often at first, participants are holding back, but once you just let go of the seriousness and start to play, its amazing the unlock it can bring in creativity and joy in working in a different team dynamic space!
Experiment & Explore
Play isn't limited to traditional games. Experiment with different forms of play, such as improvisational theater, escape rooms, or even video games. Variety keeps play exciting and fresh.
One of my clients made a commitment that each month he would organise a date night for him and his partner, and that it would have to be a new activity every month to bring more variety into their date nights!
Laugh Often
Laughter is a key ingredient in play. Seek out humor and don't take yourself too seriously. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh and engage in activities that bring joy.
We simply need to smile more!
The Art of Letting Go
Alongside learning to play, embracing the art of letting go is crucial. Here's how to do it:
Release Expectations
Let go of the need for perfection and control. Understand that play is about the process, not the outcome. Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them. Be kind and gentle on yourself.
Be Present
Immerse yourself fully in the moment when you play. Forget about your to-do list and worries. Mindfulness can enhance the enjoyment of play.
Embrace Vulnerability
Play often involves taking risks and being vulnerable. Embrace this vulnerability as a chance to grow and learn. It's okay to feel uncertain or silly sometimes.
Prioritise Self-Care
Remember that play is a form of self-care. Treat it with the same importance you would other aspects of your well-being, like exercise and nutrition. This is a big one for me with my clients, to see their transformation when they realise the impact self care has not just on themselves, but for those around them.
Share with Others
Share your journey of learning to play and letting go with others. Encourage friends and loved ones to join you on this adventure. Collective play can be even more rewarding. Creating memories with others helps in driving happiness and connections.
Learning to play and letting go is a path to rediscovering the joy, creativity, and connection that you may have felt were lost in the busyness of adulthood. So, go ahead, release your inner child, and make room for playfulness in your life. You'll be amazed at the positive impact it can have on your well-being and happiness.
